Some of Us.....

Men always seem to believe that the only thing women want is a title. They believe that all we want is to control their lives; make them miserable and hold out on sex. That is not the case. That is not the case at all.

Some of us want more than that. Well, in actuality, we want much less, but what we want less of, is harder for most men to relinquish because it requires them to actually grow up and be a grown ass man.

 

Some of us don’t require that title of "girlfriend" or "wife". We want his respect. We want the acknowledgement of being special in his life; of being a part of his life; of being a priority in his life. We don’t have the desire to go through his phone or check on his whereabouts. We want to share his time. We want to be in his space. We want to swap energies. Our concern is not the other chick. Our concern is that the other chick knows who we are in his life.

Some of us don’t want that control over their lives. We don’t have the desire to ask questions except those that allow us to learn more about him. We don’t want to stop his life. We want to be in it. We want to experience it with him. We want him to be willing to share it; to be the one he opens up to and allows in his world. We don’t mind having a piece of the dick because the dick isn’t the focus. We want the heart. We deserve the heart. We don’t need him locked down and in our presence 24/7 but we need to know that he is present. We need to feel his presence even when he’s not around. We need to know we exist in his mind even when we’re apart; that we aren’t just thrown to the side or forgotten about for weeks at a time til boredom crosses his path…or another woman doesn’t return his call. We are not the booty call girl. We are not the fuck girl. We are The girl. We are The one.

Some of us don’t need the extras. We don’t need the play by play day by day. We just need a hello. A thinking of you. A goodnight. A I can’t wait to see you. A I miss you. A I wish you were here next to me. Some of us will give up the world just to have the basics. The honesty. The genuine friendship. The unconditional love. The respect. The consistency. We need consistency. We need consistency to keep the connection because once the connection is lost, everything is lost.

Some of us don’t want the fairytale. We want to write our own story and then blend it with his to create a classic.