Why is it that we as
women tend to hold on to men for so long, when we knew way beforehand that
something was wrong? Is it because we have low self-esteem? Is it because we
really do believe in the line from Jerry Maguire, “I
love him for the man he wants to be, and I
love him for the man he
almost is?” Is it because we really do
believe deep down in our souls, we have the ability to make a man change when
it’s been repeatedly told to us by our mothers and other men, “You can’t teach
an old dog new tricks?”
We have to recognize when it’s time to walk
away and we have to recognize it way sooner than we are doing now. Maybe not at
the first sign of problems, but way before complete destruction occurs. I know
for me, I tend to hold on till I am at the point where there is no turning
back. Where, when I say goodbye, and he questions, “Baby Why?”, it’s too late
for changes and chances to be had. I don’t think this is a wise way to walk
away, because in the end, it leaves you drained, discouraged, and saddened from
wasting so much time on someone who doesn’t care about you….or doesn’t care
enough. When we spend so much time with someone who isn't givng us what we want, we are enabling that man.
This relationship stuff is not easy for us.
Most women love with their whole heart. Most women love unconditionally. Most
women put everything they have into a relationship they are fighting for. That
is a gift for we carry, I do believe. The problem is, we have to find the right
men who are deserving of our gifts. Who will cherish us, who will love us and
who will protect us By Any Means Necessary.
Most women are nurturers. We are givers. We
are lovers. Being able to do these things for a man seem to be as easy as pie.
It’s when we have to refocus our energy and love ourselves that it becomes a
problem. Why is that? Because from the time we were small, we were playing with
baby dolls and taking care of stuffed animals and playing Mommy, not learning
how to love ourselves and nurture ourselves. It takes time. It’s a daily
struggle for me. I receive joy when I am making someone else happy. But it is a
requirement that I need to be happy first to be able to give anyone else that
joy; because after a while, the joy of giving dies away when it’s not ever
being returned.
Love on yourself. Nurture yourself. Spend
time getting to know you. Then, you will attract Love back in your life.
One Love
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