It Isn't Meant for Everyone

I’m so tired of people confusing sex for love. I’m so frustrated with people trying to use sex as a means to reach happiness. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy sex. I think it’s fulfilling and amazing and enlightening and pure perfection, when shared with the right person. But to just open up my legs and welcome the world because I’m wanting to share love is just ridiculous to me.

I consider myself to be a sexual person. At the same time, there is a thin line between being sexually open and being a sex addict searching for happiness or fulfillment or just an orgasm. Being sexual does not have to mean being stupid. It does not have to mean no boundaries. There has to be a balance in all things, including love and sex.

Someone just posted in a comment today, “Everybody shouldn’t know what it’s like to sex me. To me, that’s personal, passionate, powerful and sacred. In the words of that Great Negro Poet Prince, ‘I ain’t f***ing just for kicks!’” This statement is exactly how I feel. Everyone shouldn’t know what it feels like to be with me. I treasure my body a little too much to share with everyone and I want those who are with me to know that it is something meaningful to me and not just wanting to orgasm. Sex doesn’t bring happiness. I’ve seen too many people claiming to be happy because of all the sexing they are getting, when in reality, their eyes are saying something completely different. They are seeking the attention because it’s a sign of neediness. They are seeking the thrill because it’s an ego booster. And in the end, they still aren’t happy. It’s a never-ending cycle.

When you have sex, you are not only taking on that person’s energy. You are also taking on the energies of your partner’s partners. You are connecting in a way that is meant to be one of the strongest connections we can share with someone. It’s supposed to be simultaneously shared WITH love, not to get love. It’s supposed to be a significant and meaningful experience. Being openly sexual is arousing. Being overly sexual is a turn-off. Take care of your body like you would take care of your favorite dress or pair of shoes, and not like your daily tennis shoes you run in the mud with. Share it with someone worthy.

A girlfriend of mine sent me this quote yesterday, which I absolutely love and I’m going to end with it:

“To see and feel one’s beloved naked for the first time is one of life’s pure, irreducible epiphanies. If there is a true religion in the universe, it must include that truth of contact or be forever hollow. To make love to the one true person who deserves that love is one of the few absolute rewards of being a human being, balancing all of the pain, loss, awkwardness, loneliness, idiocy, compromise, and clumsiness that go with the human condition. To make love to the right person makes up for a lot of mistakes.”~ Dan Simmons

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