The Real Me....

Sometimes I wonder if there are other people living my life, or trying to live my life, versus me living my life on my own.  It seems that from the time I was a child till even now, I have people telling me what I should be doing, when I should be doing it and how I should be doing it and it’s starting to make me wonder if the word “STUPID” is written across my forehead.

I say this because it seems as if Social Media has allowed everyone to feel as if they can share their opinion, which is fine and dandy. But there is a huge difference between sharing an opinion on a topic versus you sharing an opinion on me and what I say.  For example, on my Facebook page, on occasion, I say some outlandish things; whether it’s for entertainment or for conversation or just because I’m sharing my true thoughts, I can admit at times, they can be outlandish. But as far as I’m concerned, that’s ok. Why? Because it’s my page. Because the title of my page says Jeanelle Jones and not anyone else’s name.  So every now and then, I get an inbox or a text or a phone call asking, “Why would you put that out there?” “How do you think you’re going to find a man saying something like that?” “Why do you like to be on FB so much?”

Let me answer these questions so I hopefully don’t have to answer them again.

Why would I put some of my posts on there? I think I already answered that.  A lot of times I will post a random thought or watch something on TV or hear something that will cause me to want to post about it on my page. Other times, I will bring something out from a group I participate in on FB. That is where a lot of my sexual topics come from.  Other times I just want to vent dammit. And I don’t see what the problem is with venting. Why should I keep it inside? Why should I not be able to express how I feel on certain topics, on men, on friends, on life? What do I have to hide? So many people are hiding their entire lives and for what purpose? Because they are ashamed of it? I am not ashamed of my thoughts or my feelings or my life.

How do I think I’m going to find a man saying some of the things I say? Hmmmmm….. Well, if someone is going to judge me off of my FB persona, then I really don’t want to be with him anyway. If someone isn’t going to get to know me outside of Social Networking, then he is a waste of my time. I am not on FB to meet a man. I have not become that desperate…. YET… (laugh out loud). I am on FB for entertainment. I am on this blog for entertainment and to share my life and my thoughts with as many people who want to read. I am going to share a woman’s (or women’s) stance on men a lot of times, because…well… I am a woman. And I have many friends who happen to be women. So we talk. About men.  A lot. And usually when we talk about men, we have experienced a lot of the same scenarios and fights and disagreements and there is nothing wrong with sharing those moments. Stop getting so caught up in everyone else’s life that you are more concerned about theirs than your own. It’s play people. That’s all it is. Play.

Why do I like FB so much? If anyone knows me, they know I am a Social Butterfly. I love to be around people, I love to entertain people, I love to make people laugh, talk, debate, argue, discuss, play and share. I do it as often as I can without going crazy in my own home with friends and FB is just another outlet for socializing and entertaining people. If anyone knows me, they know I love to write as well. What better way to share my thoughts on a day to day basis, without having to write a whole blog about it? This takes way more time and way more energy than posting a 2 sentence down on FB and having 30+ comments and responses follow it.

I know there are some people who are actually out there who have my best interest at heart and I am very appreciative of those people. But I also know there are way better topics they can advise me on besides my social networking skills. I am a grown ass woman. I am actually rather intelligent as well. I have experiences every day of my life and sometimes I want to be able to share them with other people. Some days I want to cry and get support from other people. Some days I want people to laugh with me and some days I just want to get the majority a little heated. Either way, it is not detrimental to my life. It does not make or break me.

You cannot create your life around Social Networking. You cannot live your life being focused on someone else’s life. And if you are spending your time reading up on someone else’s life on FB, Twitter, Instagram, whatever, then, you are wasting so much time. Use this stuff for entertainment. Use it for work even if you have to. But don’t focus your world on it. The more people are on these outlets, the less face-to-face communication is taking place and there is nothing better than spending time up close and personal with someone else or a group of people. There is nothing better than a close and intimate REAL relationship with someone.

Love the real ME. Not the FB Me. Not the Sultry Me.

Love Me.

Peace & Blessings