My New Vocabulary Word

“I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don’t mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don’t mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling, be all that I am capable of doing, but I am going to be pursued, f**ked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding.”~ Anais Nin.

I love Anais Nin novels. It amazes me that someone who lived so long ago, in a much more proper and civilized world than we are in now, was so poetically beautiful in her words, but consistently used the word “f**k” throughout her writings. I have fallen in love with the word fuck. That is the one and only time I will spell the word out completely because it is hard for some folks to read it. Either way, it is true. I love the word.

I was brought up not cursing at all. We would get popped in the mouth just for saying shut up, so cursing has never been nor will it ever be a big deal for me. I don’t need it to make a point. But the word, f**k is so powerful when it comes to sex. It is a turn on. It is a jaw dropper. It is blunt. It is honest. it is passionate.  It is adoring. 

The phrase, “I want to have sex” is not a sexy statement in any way whatsoever. It doesn’t get me wet, it doesn’t excite me, it doesn’t make the panties come off. What it tells me is there is no creativity in your thought process and there is probably no creativity in your bed skills. I’m visualizing missionary (don’t get me wrong, I love missionary) 24 hours a day.

The phrase, “I want to f**k you” lets me know you are excited about me. It lets me know I turn you on in some way that makes you hot and bothered about feeling me next to you. It tells me, you’ve thought about it, you’ve fantasized about it, and every position will not be missionary. It is not boring like having sex, nor is it worrisome like lovemaking. So many times, if you say, “I want to make love to you,” a man is running for the door. Little do they know that you can f**k and make love at the same time.  Someone can bring out so much heat and desire from you, you want to f**k them….slow…tenderly…lovingly. 

To f**k is taboo. It’s that raunchy, freaky and steamy and those up-against-the-wall-legs-straddling-waist-kinda visions you get when using it. Don’t get me wrong, the wrong person using the word will make you want to give them a chop to the neck, but we are focusing on the right use of the word.

See what happens the next time you tell your lover, “F**k me.”