Going Downtown or the Straight Shot??
About a month ago, I was having a discussion with my girls as we sat at a bar and I was immediately kicked out of the "club" because I stated that receiving oral sex was not a requirement for me. I was shocked to hear that three out of the five females admitted that not only would they not be in a relationship without receiving oral sex, they would choose oral over penetration on any given day. They took me totally by surprise!
As I sat with my head held low in shame for obviously choosing the wrong team, I listened to their points. Yes, receiving is great!! No question about it! Especially when it's done well!! It can be a very long lasting orgasm or continuous multiple orgasms. And it can be a complete turn on just by the positions you are placed in for the feasting. But really?? Over penetration? A few factors came into place for me:
1. The tongue can only go so far. The penis gives more depth and width.
2. You can sit there and watch and moan and groan for so long. Sooner or later, you're going to get bored, or you're going to have to flip it around and start giving.
3. Unless you are a true pro, there is nothing like being able to cum at the same time as your partner and that's rather difficult to do with oral.
4. Repeat Reasons 1-3 until you agree with me.
I know there are many who will disagree with me, but in reality, to each his own, right? I'm still kicked out of the club however and my girls still think I'm crazy... Sidenote, though...I was shown the light that nite and the scales are definitely balancing out.
Whatever your preference, enjoy to the fullest and always be safe. And remember, it's always better to give than to receive... :) Would love to here your comments on this one.
Sultre
As I sat with my head held low in shame for obviously choosing the wrong team, I listened to their points. Yes, receiving is great!! No question about it! Especially when it's done well!! It can be a very long lasting orgasm or continuous multiple orgasms. And it can be a complete turn on just by the positions you are placed in for the feasting. But really?? Over penetration? A few factors came into place for me:
1. The tongue can only go so far. The penis gives more depth and width.
2. You can sit there and watch and moan and groan for so long. Sooner or later, you're going to get bored, or you're going to have to flip it around and start giving.
3. Unless you are a true pro, there is nothing like being able to cum at the same time as your partner and that's rather difficult to do with oral.
4. Repeat Reasons 1-3 until you agree with me.
I know there are many who will disagree with me, but in reality, to each his own, right? I'm still kicked out of the club however and my girls still think I'm crazy... Sidenote, though...I was shown the light that nite and the scales are definitely balancing out.
Whatever your preference, enjoy to the fullest and always be safe. And remember, it's always better to give than to receive... :) Would love to here your comments on this one.
Sultre
This is a very good topic and one which comes up frequently within my circle as well. I must say I tend to favor penetration over oral sex. Dont get me wrong I love oral but penetration stimulates you in a way that even the best oral sex provider cannot. I like to feel the walls of my "vajayjay" being penetrated by a nice long and thick swipe. I like my partner to feel the pulsation of me as I do them as we climax together. That you cant get with oral pleasures. I think oral is a great tool for four play or initial stimulation but should nit take the place of good ole fashion penetration. VIA LE PENETRATION.....I wanna feel you baby.
ReplyDeleteI agree 100% with you. Nothing better than deep penetration.... But I would never say no to good oral oral either!!! Lol! Thanks for commenting!
ReplyDeleteOk trying this again...I do agree with you both, I do like oral but I love PENETRATION...there is nothing like the slow dance,groove of having someone inside of you, touching you, feeling your inward self...um um um!!!
ReplyDeleteCouldnt have said it better myself Rhonda!!!!! I'm curious to see where all the other folks have disappeared to! And the men!!!
ReplyDeleteMissy you know where I stand...need it all oral, penetration, toys....One can not go on without the other...Call me greedy if you want...but hey that's reality...Oral is excellent for a pre cursor to the marathon....it's a great first round pick..BUT it MUST be followed with pure hard driven PENETRATION... :o)
ReplyDelete:) I think we could start our own club now... lol... I'm glad females are agreeing that penetration is a necessity... Thanks for joining Sexi Tee!
ReplyDeleteI can't speak for every man but I like to receive oral and give it all. I enjoy the art of cunnilinguist I love giving. If she wants toys we can do that too. I like to recieve oral but I prefer to penetrate. Nothing like the two of us huffing and puffing and flipping into all kinds of positions. As for a female preferring oral over penetration baffles me because if that is what they prefer then they could be with another woman instead of a man. I can understand not being in a relationship with someone who didn't want to give oral but to prefer that over penetration is strange to me.
ReplyDeletePentration over oral anyday. It is just sad that many men don't want to allow the penetration unless they receive oral. Many women are now playing the same game. I'm like Sexi Tee (hey girl), I want it ALL. Give me oral, vaginal, toys, hands and tongue.
ReplyDeleteRobert so glad to have a man's opinion. And believe me I don't understand why a woman would choose oral over penetration as well. I think the women who do choose that route might not really like sex that much maybe?? I don't know. Maybe it's because it's not a lot of work for them. Whatever the reason I think they are crazy!! Maisha that may have to be another discussion for a different day. What is that about!!! Why do they think they should get it before sex but they don't want to give it as often as they expect to get it? I'm glad women are learning how to play the game as well as them! Thanks guys for sharing with us!
ReplyDeleteI don't need oral if I am going to get to penetrate. I don't know what man would turn down that hot box of love because she won't give him head. I have heard guys say they would prefer oral but that is because they feel they are doing all the work (when they penetrate) while the woman is laying there being pleasured.
ReplyDeleteOh Robert I know many men that would take oral every day over sex for some crazy reason.... And it's not abbout doing work.... It's about the show the female gives I think while shes giving the head.
ReplyDeleteOh Robert I know many men that would take oral every day over sex for some crazy reason.... And it's not abbout doing work.... It's about the show the female gives I think while shes giving the head.
ReplyDeleteIf full service isn't on the menu, someone's holding out in the relationship. I like to watch the sunrise over the curves of my partner's body, but that takes cooperation and prep between rounds... Oral works great here, but everywhere... Blindfolds and ear plug each other to rely on other senses... Exploration of how far one can go without the acts can be even more... Anticipation of a touch, the can have hairs standing on ends and have one dripping on the floor...
ReplyDeleteDer Wanderer, I like the way you think!!! Being able to enhance the other senses is a great idea and can bring a lot of excitement to lovemaking... anticipation of the unexpected is definitely a turn on as well!!! Love it!! Thanks for the ideas!!
ReplyDelete...most women that enjoy oral sex are usually very clitorally stimulated. there are three types of orgasms, clitoral, anal and epicenter. Epicenter gives the strongest, longest and usually ends up full body tremors!!!!...and at the end the brain produces the same endorphins that are produced the first time a mother sees her child!!!! THats why when a man is long enough and strong enough the woman falls in love so hard with him. Most men dont know how to find the spot......But you girls are right, none of you could just choose one thing you like over everything.....women need their whole body made love to and payed attention to.....the longer you spend on each part, foreplay, oral, touching, kissing, talking (sultre), teasing, penetration....EVERYTHING!!! An hour at least......anything else?...just gettin started.
ReplyDeleteJohn, in all honesty, I don't think many men take the time to enjoy the woman's body like they should, so most folks probably don't even know the difference between the three types of orgasms. I think that's why many men don't even like giving oral to women. THey're so concerned with their own nut, they want the female to get on their knees every time, but it has to be our birthday for us to get some good oral!! But yes, if all men knew the spots and spent time on all parts of our bodies, there would be a whole lot more happy women out there!! LOL!!!
ReplyDeletehahaha....sultre ur funny....i was tryina change my name...to be mysterious. But now i wanna change it so the men won't here wont be mad.....im not tryina bash men and say we dont fuck right. I like sexi tees response too....Women are selfish when it comes to sex!!! They just want you for your body and they treat you like a whore!!!!
ReplyDeleteLOL!! Wait a minute!!! Who treats who like the whore??? And I don't think all women are selfish... I honestly prefer to give more than to receive. I think more men are selfish than women.
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