The Scaredy Cat is Really Afraid of the PuttyCat....
Women are always joking about how we are the stronger sex and the wiser sex but in reality (sorry fellas), I think that is absolutely true! So who is really the Scaredy Cat? Men..... Duh!
Of course, let me start off by saying I'm not talking about all men, I'm categorizing them right now so forgive me ahead of time. It seems to me that many men live by the idea of, "I'm going to do what I want" while women live by the code of, "I'm going to do what I need to do." Men have somewhat lost the desire to be the real man and instead spend more time than females in the nail salon and getting lined up. But I'm losing my focus right now.... My bad....Another story for another blog...
Men seem to be more scared of commitment because they are constantly second guessing their decisions of who the right woman is. They don't know if they should commit because they never know if a better woman is going to show up the next day. But then when they do commit, and marry, and sadly the wife passes away, they are scared to be alone so most men marry again immediately. They are scared of commitment because they feel as if they are going to miss out on being single..or hanging with their boys... whichever is more important at the time. Also, men are scared of being hurt by women, which is why it takes them longer to let go and fall in love. More men commit suicide over a woman hurting them than women do. Why is that? More men go off the handle and kill a woman, the kids and himself because he couldn't handle the reality of her just walking away from him. More men move from one relationship to the other without even a change of sheets because of the fear of being alone. A lot of men are also intimidated if a woman has had more sex than he has. He feels as if he will not be able to satisfy her if she tells him she's slept with more people than he has. They are scared of having sex and being talked about their poor skills, which is why they are constantly bragging about how good they are.
While I understand many men take a much longer time to make the decision to settle down and be with one person and spend their lives with one person, it seems the longer they take, the more women are figuring out they can do the same thing. So where do they connect?
I have a hard time understanding why men are so scared of women when all a woman wants is a man to want and need her. But once again, a man is so scared to admit that to a woman (until he's sick and acting like a baby). If men would just stop being afraid of living and loving, a good woman would show him he never has to be afraid again.
Talk to me men.... Make a believer out of me! :)
Of course, let me start off by saying I'm not talking about all men, I'm categorizing them right now so forgive me ahead of time. It seems to me that many men live by the idea of, "I'm going to do what I want" while women live by the code of, "I'm going to do what I need to do." Men have somewhat lost the desire to be the real man and instead spend more time than females in the nail salon and getting lined up. But I'm losing my focus right now.... My bad....Another story for another blog...
Men seem to be more scared of commitment because they are constantly second guessing their decisions of who the right woman is. They don't know if they should commit because they never know if a better woman is going to show up the next day. But then when they do commit, and marry, and sadly the wife passes away, they are scared to be alone so most men marry again immediately. They are scared of commitment because they feel as if they are going to miss out on being single..or hanging with their boys... whichever is more important at the time. Also, men are scared of being hurt by women, which is why it takes them longer to let go and fall in love. More men commit suicide over a woman hurting them than women do. Why is that? More men go off the handle and kill a woman, the kids and himself because he couldn't handle the reality of her just walking away from him. More men move from one relationship to the other without even a change of sheets because of the fear of being alone. A lot of men are also intimidated if a woman has had more sex than he has. He feels as if he will not be able to satisfy her if she tells him she's slept with more people than he has. They are scared of having sex and being talked about their poor skills, which is why they are constantly bragging about how good they are.
While I understand many men take a much longer time to make the decision to settle down and be with one person and spend their lives with one person, it seems the longer they take, the more women are figuring out they can do the same thing. So where do they connect?
I have a hard time understanding why men are so scared of women when all a woman wants is a man to want and need her. But once again, a man is so scared to admit that to a woman (until he's sick and acting like a baby). If men would just stop being afraid of living and loving, a good woman would show him he never has to be afraid again.
Talk to me men.... Make a believer out of me! :)
I think most women make assumptions on why men are afraid to commit to a relationship. I think there maybe many cases where men are afriad to commit because of their feelings but the truth is most men do not want to commit unless they feel they can trust a woman. Men are more worried about getting married to the wrong woman and then getting divorced and having to give up half his assets to a woman who (in most cases) didn't help him make the money but the courts deem it okay to give her half. I think most men are afriad to commit to a woman who has big plans for a wedding but no plans for their future together. Most men have been rejected by women they fell for and after they become more successful find those same type of woman attracted to them not for who they are but for what she sees he has. Because of this men put up a guard and are ready to bolt at any sign that she is not a team player. Since women are presumed to be more emotional when it comes to sex, men don't expect you to have as many sex partners (because how can you have feelings for so many different guys) and if you have had many sex partners then the question is why and why didn't any of them hang around. What is wrong with her that she can't keep a man? You may think you know what a man's thought process is but we try to rationalize everything while woman think because she gave up the booty that we are now dating. Doesn't work that way for men.
ReplyDeleteI hear you Robert, but then it makes you wonder why men are dealing with women like that? Do they really think if you meet them at the club and she's asking you to buy her a drink that she's the one for you? Or if her first question to you is what kinda car you drive or what kinda job you have, then shouldn't that be a sign to run first, instead of actually going on a date with her because she's so hot... falling in love with her cause she is good in bed... and then realizing, oh shit... now what??? I think men get sidetracked with looks and sex and think about the real stuff way too late in the game... and no, a woman doesn't think that just because she gave up the booty, she's in a relationship... but if he's not being honest, not telling her he's seeing other people, telling her he loves her or moving in with her, then it can make someone jump to wrong conclusions... yes, it may not be right... but in actuality, he needs to say what he's around for and give her the option to deal or move on... either way, there's always someone waiting....
ReplyDeleteMen enjoy in house booty so if they can lock something down to have sex with then they will. Most men do not look for relationships. Relationships are the womans idea. Follow me for a second. Almost every man would love to have sex with different women. We like variety. I am sure women like variety as well. The issue with men is we find a woman, we sleep with her and everything is cool then a relationship begins to form. The man didn't want a relationship he just wanted some regular booty but he can't tell you that because you won't give him the pu$$y anymore. He may love you, he may want to be with you but men like variety and the issue is although he loves you he can't stop putting himself in bad positions where he has other options he can not say no to. He may love being with you but he wants options just in case your aunt is in town or you are holding out because of an arguement or you just aren't feeling like it because you know it won't satisfy you. It is a constant battle for men to commit because we are out numbered by women and there are so many women looking for a man that they will even settle for part of your man.
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