Is It Really Worth Faking?
I dated this guy many years ago. We were together for over a year and towards the end of those years, he started smoking a lot of marijuana and gained a lot of weight. He became lazy, lethargic and couldn't keep his penis hard for nothing. For probably the last six months of our relationship, I was constantly faking orgasms and getting nothing at all out of our sex life. I was completely miserable.
It is estimated that approximately 70% of women fake orgasms. 70%!!!! Why do we do it? Is it to not hurt their ego? If there are so many women out there faking orgasms, shouldn't there be a red alert that something is going wrong in the bed with these men? And if we never tell them they aren't satisfying us, they continue to go out there believing they are "The Man", while instead, raising the percentage of women not reaching the Big O. So is it really worth faking it?
Why don't we just let the man know what we like or what we don't like? Would it embarass them to know they weren't doing anything for us or would they be willing to hear, actually listen, and try again? When women don't know how to give head well, men are always trying to teach and give their pointers so why can't we? And I'm pretty sure there are more women faking orgasms then giving bad head. Difference is, most men will still nut after bad head. Women won't cum after bad sex.
I love when a man actually takes the time to ask what I like. Or better yet, actually pays attention to the little things he does that turn me on. But sadly, most don't take that much time. So do we continue to live the lie and let men get up from the bed thinking they did the damn thing..... or do we finally realize that sex isn't just a one-way street and we deserve to be pleased as well, so we let them know how to make us feel good. I do belive most men would appreciate what we have to say, and if they flip and get an attitude or turn it around like you didn't do something right.... Well, they aren't really men anyway. Am I right men? Is there a way for us to let you know without tearing apart your ego or pride?
Women are constantly trying to please a man. Constantly trying to lift him up and praise him in all he does. And that's a wonderful thing. But sometimes, just like men are so willing to tell us the truth at times about our weight or our dress or our cooking, we need to tell them their bed skills suck. Cause faking it isn't doing anyone any good.
It is estimated that approximately 70% of women fake orgasms. 70%!!!! Why do we do it? Is it to not hurt their ego? If there are so many women out there faking orgasms, shouldn't there be a red alert that something is going wrong in the bed with these men? And if we never tell them they aren't satisfying us, they continue to go out there believing they are "The Man", while instead, raising the percentage of women not reaching the Big O. So is it really worth faking it?
Why don't we just let the man know what we like or what we don't like? Would it embarass them to know they weren't doing anything for us or would they be willing to hear, actually listen, and try again? When women don't know how to give head well, men are always trying to teach and give their pointers so why can't we? And I'm pretty sure there are more women faking orgasms then giving bad head. Difference is, most men will still nut after bad head. Women won't cum after bad sex.
I love when a man actually takes the time to ask what I like. Or better yet, actually pays attention to the little things he does that turn me on. But sadly, most don't take that much time. So do we continue to live the lie and let men get up from the bed thinking they did the damn thing..... or do we finally realize that sex isn't just a one-way street and we deserve to be pleased as well, so we let them know how to make us feel good. I do belive most men would appreciate what we have to say, and if they flip and get an attitude or turn it around like you didn't do something right.... Well, they aren't really men anyway. Am I right men? Is there a way for us to let you know without tearing apart your ego or pride?
Women are constantly trying to please a man. Constantly trying to lift him up and praise him in all he does. And that's a wonderful thing. But sometimes, just like men are so willing to tell us the truth at times about our weight or our dress or our cooking, we need to tell them their bed skills suck. Cause faking it isn't doing anyone any good.
Faking an orgasm isn't cool and you should be able to talk to your man about his performance in bed but like you don't want to hear you are fat in that outfit - a man doesn't want to hear he sucks in bed. You can talk to him but you have to be tactful because (although we act tough)most men have sensitive egos.
ReplyDeleteI think we know how to be tactful. But really, would it matter to you how tactful we are, if we're basically saying you have no stroke, you're too small, you couldn't give an orgasm no matter how hard you tried?? Would you really accept it or would you say it's her fault?? LOL!
ReplyDeleteHe can't do anything about being to small and if he has no stroke then that is another issue. If you feel he can't give an orgasm no matter how hard he tried then maybe he isn't the one for you. I wouldn't say it is her fault but I don't know how well I would receive it if she came at me that way. I might get defensive but if she feels I am not big enough or she isn't feeling my stroke then we can go our separate ways and I will find someone who will like how I put it down and she will have to do the same.
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