The Aggressive Pursuer--The Woman Revamped
So women have definitely changed over generations. At one time, we were taught to let the man court us, let the man pursue us and never sleep with more than one person at a time. Are women happy that the roles seem to have changed?
According to a couple of sites, there are approximately 100 black women to every 87 black men. As we continuously increase in our numbers, it seems as if black men are decreasing in theirs. You go to the club or the bar nowadays and you see the women approaching the men to dance, to talk, to buy a drink. Have you made this change in the way you approach men as well? Have you become more assertive when you see someone who catches your eye?
I have always been more assertive than the men I’ve dated, why I don’t know. I think I believe in the idea that if you want something, you go for it because you may never get that opportunity again. I also enjoy the challenge of being the pursuer. But while women are becoming more assertive in the capture of men, is it turning men off or do they enjoy being pursued for a change? Does it build their egos and cause them to engage with more women than usual because they may accept any offer they receive? Or do they think the women are becoming too strong for them to handle?
On the other hand, is it wrong for single women to not continue sitting at home waiting for a phone call, but out getting their grove and one night stands on as well? Are women taking their sexuality to another level and becoming more and more like men and if so, why is that? Men have always believed they can sleep with as many people as they wish and not be labeled a ho, so why is it that a single woman can’t do the same thing if she feels the urge to without being called a slut? Why can’t a woman enjoy the pleasures of different men whenever we chose to? If you are single, or when you were single, what were you doing?
Sorry so many questions, but I would really like to hear from you all and what you think. I don’t think it’s wrong women have become more assertive. Women are finally admitting that they enjoy sex as much as men do and they should not have to hide their feelings or their desires as far as I’m concerned.
Wake up men! It’s becoming a woman’s world!
I wouldn't say I like an "aggressive" woman, because they don't know when to get the damn hint. I would say a "confident and comfortable" woman that knows what she wants and isn't afraid to say or do it.
ReplyDeleteSultry.........i think you've answered all of your own questions. Women are so full of contradictions, one of the many things I love about them. See, your aggression is nothing more than pure sexual energy. The fact that you say youve always been more aggressive than these men your interested in is proof that its the challenge your interested in. At some level men are all the same and at some level women are all the same. One similarity in women is that, once they've "spotted" a potential mate, they'll stop at almost nothing to get what they want. To OVERTAKE him. The challenge, the chase, is the appeal. There are plenty of other men who are chasing YOU as you chase this extraordinary gentleman. But you're not INTERESTED. YOu think that if a man can hold your attention this long and to such a degree he must have sumthin special he's hiding. If he can excite you, tease you, confound you, frustrate you, anger you and make you laugh this much before he even touches you............Just imagine what can do when he decides to stop runnin'.......
ReplyDeleteDeuce, so you're telling me that if a woman you thought was hot, grabbed your dick in the club and told you she wanted you, you wouldn't be turned on?? I highly doubt it. Of course, it has to be someone you're attracted to... but confident and comfortable is totally different from being aggressive. Aggressive is inviting you to her house and you entering in and she's ready to take you down immediately. That's a bad thing??
ReplyDeleteJohn, Yes, you are right. I do like that challenge and the power of overtaking. I especially like being able to get what I really want. And sometimes honestly, I get turned off by the people chasing me. I remember being in college and having a discussion with a bunch of friends. Would you rather be with someone who you were in love with, but they just loved you or would you rather love someone while they were in love with you? At the time, I said I would prefer them to be in love with me and me just love them, but ever since then, I've realized that I need to be in love with that person I would do all for... Just like love, I need to feel the attraction for that person. If they are chasing me, and there's no attraction, they are going to keep running after someoen who has no interest in them whatsoever. But if I'm into you and I'm trying to get you, I'm going to do everything in my power to capture and devour... when he stops running.
Ummmm...@Sultre..that has happened and it was HOT. But that's just a woman knowing what she wants. Being aggressive to me is leaping on top of me and putting me in a headlock to do what she wants. I don't want that..HAHAHAHA
ReplyDeleteultimately it's not in a woman's nature to be the hunter gatherer as it states your focus group study figures to become. in the realm of dating i think the whole entire playing field though is morphing(it is as you're stating) but like the state of the economy it'll right itself and go back to business as usual once things flatten out
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